Would You Divorce Your Church? Or Keep Living with the Lies?

What if you found out your spouse was living a double life?

You would probably do 1 of 2 things:

1)    Be upset AND ignore it: do your best to put on a “happy face” for others, all the while suffering in silence with the deep hurt and pain that that knowledge is causing you—praying silently to God that “one day” it will all go away—poof—all by itself and then you’ll be “fine”’ after you’ve suffered “long enough.”  Perhaps you have children and your very survival and theirs is dependent on your spouse, so you chose to ignore the truth.

2)    Be upset AND divorce your spouse: you realize that s/he has NO intention of ever telling you they are leading a double life, NO intention of ever changing, and NO remorse, guilt or shame for living the double life.  In fact, they would be extremely upset at YOU for finding out, and if you stay in the marriage, they will punish you unless you get to the divorce attorney first.

What do you do?

Is there a right or a wrong decision?

Either decision you make, the knowledge of your spouse living a double life:

• Turns your life upside down in unimaginable ways

• Destroys the trust you thought you had

• Makes you realize your entire marriage has been built on a lie

• Destroys the world you thought you knew

• Makes you now question EVERYTHING and EVERYONE

• Causes you to doubt and question yourself:

o   How did this happen?

o   How did I not know?

o   How did I not see all the signs?

o   How was I so easily manipulated all these years?

o   What do I do now?

§  If I stay, I have to ignore the truth or what is really going on and pretend that it doesn’t really matter or affect me.

§  If I get the divorce, I will probably lose everything--my home, my family, a lot of my friends, my stability, my comforts, my beliefs, even my identity and my purpose as a spouse!

So what do you do?

You choose either Option 1 or Option 2.

Option 1 means you ignore the truth of what you just discovered and you have to pretend that nothing is wrong in the marriage. You put on the “happy face” and suffer in silence. You wonder how long you’ll be able to do that, and you wonder how long it’s going to take your spouse to realize that you know the truth.  Then you have to wonder what s/he is going to do with/to you once they find out you know their truth, and then what’s going to happen?

Option 2 means you stand up for the truth you know, and you leave the lying spouse, and YOU file the divorce papers—knowing you are risking everything by taking that aggressive stand.

Which option would you chose?

For me, I chose Option 2.

I filed the divorce papers.

My spouse?  The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints.

After finding out that The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints was NOT what it purported to be, I couldn’t stay.

When I realized that the doctrine taught in that church goes CONTRARY to what Jesus teaches, I couldn’t stick around.

When I realized that “sacred temple work” was really “secret combination work,” I was devastated. My world collapsed around me. I was heart-broken to the deepest core, but I knew I couldn’t participate in it any more.

When I found out that Joseph Smith was NEVER commanded by Jesus Christ to start a church and be the “prophet, seer and revelator,” I realized my entire life (54 years) of being devoted, obedient and faithful to the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints was built on a LIE, and I couldn’t “put on the happy face” and pretend that nothing was wrong.

Since I knew I wouldn’t be able to ignore the truth, I had to get a divorce.

So I did.

I divorced The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints on January 17, 2025

I decided that I couldn’t live with its lies, deceits and “double life” anymore.

Was it hard? YES!!!  The hardest decision I’ve ever had to make in my entire life!

Did I grieve? YES! I cried as I filled out the resignation/divorce papers.

Did I lose things? YES! I lost my religion, my culture, my faith, my beliefs, my identity, and even my purpose to/in life.

Did I lose people? YES! I lost my LDS family members, friends and neighbors—those relationships will never be the same again.

But did I GAIN anything?

YES, YES and YES!!!!

I gained EVERYTHING!

Because I got Jesus.

He was waiting for me!

And after I had divorced the double-life, lying and deceitful LDS Church, I could give Him 100% of me.

Going through the DIVORCE was MORE than worth it!

As Jesus says:

“And everyone who has left houses or brothers or sisters or father or mother or wife or children or lands, for My name’s sake, shall receive a hundredfold, and inherit eternal life.” Matt 19:29

QUESTION: “But Kerry, do you have ANY regrets about going thru that divorce?”

ANSWER: Only one—that I didn’t do it sooner!

For me, it’s all and only Jesus.

No religion.

No middle man.

Just me and Jesus.

Totally worth the divorce a MILLION times over!!

And that’s why I’m sharing this experience with you.

Perhaps you also know of the “double life” of the LDS Church—or you just “feel” that something is off or missing…

I’m here to tell you that YES—something IS missing.

It’s JESUS!!!

And it’s the Jesus Christ who was born in the flesh, who died for YOU, and who was resurrected on the third day and is LIVING.

The “Lord” and the “Jesus Christ” in the LDS Church is a FALSE one who focuses on DEAD works in the “great and spacious building” and makes you enter into secret combinations via secret oaths with secret signs in temples, which is forbidden of God.

“And it came to pass that they formed a secret combination, even as they of old; which combination is most abominable and wicked above all, in the sight of God; For the Lord worketh not in secret combinations, neither doth he will that man should shed blood, but in all things hath forbidden it, from the beginning of man.” Ether 8:18-19

Jesus also warned us in Matthew 24:4-5:

“See to it that no one misleads you. For many will come in My name, saying, ‘I am the Christ,’ and they will mislead many people.”

I was misled.

I was deceived.

I was lied to.

And when I found out about it, I filed for divorce.

It was not easy. But it was worth it a million times over.

DIVORCE THE LDS CHURCH so you can marry Jesus!!

Only Jesus.

P.S. If you thought I was divorcing my husband—sorry if I mislead you. We’re BOTH more on fire and “married” to Jesus and each other than ever before!! Jesus revitalizes ALL.